Are You A Real Martial Artist with Emotional Control?
Let me ask you ...
Have you ever been at family gatherings where arguments and fights break out? Does this seem like normal family interaction to you?
It has become a stereotype that most families have giant fights at some point during celebratory meals. Nerves are frazzled from preparing such a big, formal dinner. Personalities clash. Some relatives are just barely tolerable, but they are our relatives, so we congregate for the meal.
True Martial Artists
If you are a true martial artist, then you have been spending a considerable amount of time coordinating your mind with your body. One of the byproducts of all of this mind-body coordination is to be able to control ... both your body and your mind.
Now, here's the thousand-dollar question ...
Do you participate in the big arguments at your family gatherings -- Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, Independence Day, or whatever the event? Do you find yourself getting angered by what others say? After the meal, do you leave the event fuming, or at least so disappointed that you wonder why you keep trying?
May I propose that you behave like a martial artist in control of your emotions?
(I don't need to explain the benefits of being in control of one's anger. We all know the benefits already.) I could write volumes on methods to keep from getting mad. And there have been bookshelves of books already written on the subject.
Control Your Anger
Here are just a few ideas to get you started, if this happens to be your personal albatross:
* Calmly say, "Isn't that interesting!" any time someone says something that might rile you.
* Become an observer. Watch the events unfold, but don't participate in the argument, yourself.
* Act as the calm mediator. Nothing anyone says can anger you, because you are the ultimate peacekeeper.
End note:
When I wrote Tiptoeing to Tranquility,' I wanted martial artists to use it as a gift, for non-martial artists. I made it an easy read, small and inexpensive, so lots of them could be given as gifts.
But martial artists themselves also have been buying copies. Why? Because they like the lifestyle and mental attitude of the martial arts master, Sam. I think it's his easy-going attitude. For those who have already read Tiptoeing ..., I am sure you can't imagine Sam getting upset at a family gathering. It's not his nature.
Your martial arts is the key to achieving the same kind of serenity.
If you are looking for easy-to-incorporate habits and attitudes, those befitting of a martial-arts master (or people who have mastered their personal environment), take a look at 'Tiptoeing to Tranquility.' Tiptoeing to Tranquility (Soft Cover)
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Keith Pascal is a martial-arts writer and has taught martial arts for 25 years.
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